For all practical purposes, our mind is a deterministic state machine.
You cannot fight unwanted desires or force motivation through will power. Eventually, we all lose to the natural state of our mind.
And yet, most of us keep trying in vain chasing ways to discipline the mind. And that is the textbook definition of insanity.
You change what you seek and how you get there by changing the state of your mind. The work is all inwards.
Across relationships and jobs, the universe will keep doing onto you the same things, year after year, decade after decade, until you reflect with brutal honesty what you are doing to yourself.
Until then, all self-help frameworks, methods, techniques, workshops, podcasts, books and the likes are a waste of your time.